When gunning for a promotion, going after your dream
partner, pursuing your dreams, applying for jobs or even simply navigating
through life; too many of us assume that we need to have talent in order to
move forward.
Sure, if you want to play professional sports, you’ll need a
certain level of talent in order to even get a look in but even if you have all
the talent in the world and you don’t believe in yourself, you will never reach
the kind of heights that you are capable of.
Self-belief will trump talent in the long run. Those with
self-belief will push harder, do what it takes and will always get back up when
they’re knocked down. Plus, they get knocked down many more times than those
who lack self-belief because they are constantly putting themselves out there.
The difference between the “self-believers” and the “non-
believers” is pretty simply. Those that believe, think that they are already
capable or they will always find a way to figure it out. Those that don’t will
always find an excuse as to why it’s too hard and there are too many obstacles
in place.
Self- believers see obstacles as a sign that they are
getting closer, the more obstacles that are thrown their way, the more compelled
they get to keep pushing forward.
As a reformed non- believer myself, I used to see obstacles
as finish lines; they were there to “warn” me to turn back and to remain safe.
If I ever did put myself out there and inevitably got knocked down, I took it
to mean that the world is harsh and scary and I ought to get back into my
little hole.
“The problem with our safe little holes is that we only attract more
darkness when we are there. The hole will inevitably get smaller as our fear
and doubt increase. We become locked in our own minds and feel stuck without a
way out.”
Eventually something external happens, if you’re lucky it
will be something small like a mild illness. If you’ve been ignoring all the
alarm bells then you’re more likely to get a bigger wakeup call; death of a
loved one, serious illness, eviction, divorce etc.
Life keeps teaching us the same lessons until we learn from
it. The self-believers know this. They know that with each “failure” comes a
valuable lesson and that if they learn from it, they will be even more
resilient, powerful and their confidence will deepen.
Don’t let your own innate talent die inside of you. We all
have talent; talent that is unique to each of us. No one speaks like you do,
they can’t dance the way you do or parent the way you can. Yes, every one of us
is unique just like everyone else and that’s what makes self-belief so
critical.
Your light is waiting for you. Start to recognise that
without self-belief you will forever be stuck, learn what you need to in order
to change it and make a difference in your world.
Live the best version of you and become a self-believer!
Happy self-loving
Katie Nicole
