Well it's been a while since I last posted and if I'm honest, I've really missed connecting with all my readers.
I have had a huge few weeks with trainings galore and boy do I have some goodies for you.
Today, I thought I would share with you some insights around us women and men. You see confidence is all about strength, the strength to stand up for yourself, the strength to say no to others and yes to yourself. The strength to be all you can be and say it just how you want it.
For many women we have given away our power. For countless generations we let men take our power from us, we didn't know any better and although women have fought through feminism to regain our power somehow there is still a staggering amount of women who continue to give it away, even in the youngest of generations.
How do our children learn? Through us primarily of course and we were taught by our mothers and them by theirs. Unless our mothers learnt what their own power was it would seem that their daughters wouldn't know either.
I believe that through our generations and with the rise of females in power we are being taught that it's a good thing to have power and strength, and it is. What concerns me is the depletion of our feminine energy. We have learnt to rise as men do, not as women. Our strongest women use a tonne of masculine energy and for the most part the women who are out there providing for their families and staying strong are denying themselves their true energy source.
Think about it, men's energy is to put out, be external and "out there", for us women we are to receive, to take, to nurture. As women we have gone out and put on the hat of the man, we ave denied our feminine energy and often are shamed when we use our femininity in the workplace. We very rarely let people look after us, we don't even allow ourselves to get sick and we never really take any time for us, yet our feminine energy is to receive.
This causes tension, our natural state is to be a woman, of course! Not a man. When we never let our partners look after us, or never tell them how too, they become boys and we become the mother. They take on the feminine role's and just fall into being looked after, the romance ceases to exist, the love begins to feel lost and we end up beginning to resent why he just can't put his dirty undies in the basket.
It is a beautiful thing that we are out there now too, I want to remind you how powerful your feminine energy is, how wearing your hair down can impact and influence the men in your workplace and home life more than you can imagine.
What we need to notice is that when we have our guards up and play the masculine energy all the time there is no place for his masculine energy so he takes on the feminine. Then there is no place for your feminine energy.
Men need to feel appreciated, to feel like the man and that he is our hero, our King. For us, we need to feel understood, that he gets us, we should be his Queen.
I have always considered myself strong and independent and for the most part I am. I have worked at my confidence and strength, travelling the world alone and doing things my way almost to prove the point that I can. I often found myself saying things like " sure a man would be nice, but I sure don't need one".
What I have come to realise is that it's really nice to be treated like a real women, to have the door held open, for my coat to be removed, for him to drive me around. It doesn't mean that I can't do it, it certainly doesn't mean that I am weak, it means that my man feels like the man and I feel like the woman.
Embrace your feminine energy, wear your hair down more often, tell all the men in your life how much you appreciate them and really mean it. It's time for us to take on our power, our feminine power and leaves the men's business to them.
Happy Monday!
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