When you really think about it, the term “self-belief” seems
a little odd. When we are asked if we believe in god we are talking about
faith, whether we believe in aliens or ghosts we are talking about opinions, neither of which (at the time of writing) can be unequivocally proven true or untrue. When
we ask these questions we are asking if these things actually exist.
Without getting too woo woo about it, it’s pretty easy to
assume that we as people, do in fact exist. We have bodies that age, grow and
deteriorate. We have minds that create and can interact with others. There is a
lot of evidence to suggest that we do actually exist.
Yet for many of us we struggle to believe in ourselves. Is
it that we question our very existence? Or when it comes to humanity are we
actually questioning whether or not we believe in our ability to achieve?
We’ve all asked ourselves that question “who am I?” at some
point in time. Perhaps you were lucky enough to leave that in your adolescence,
but for a vast majority of first world humanity we are left with a void and at
times an existential crisis of identity. How can we honestly expect to believe
in our ability to achieve when we don’t even know who we are?
Self- belief comes when we know who we are and are confident
that we can navigate our lives according to our dreams and hearts desires and
that despite setbacks, we are able to pick ourselves up and continue on.
We question alien existence because we have no “proof”.
Things are generally accepted by the world once sufficient evidence is
provided. Imaging telling the average person in 1850 that in the future you
will be able to connect to the entire world using invisible waves of current,
you’ll be able to have an instant face to face conversation with someone on the
other side of the planet and you can get in a huge chunk of steel with hundreds
of other people and fly over oceans. You would be labelled insane and probably
locked up.
Yet here we are. We do the same thing for ourselves. Without
reference points of success we fail to have “proof” that we are worthy/ can
achieve the thing we set out to do, so without proof we lose faith. We think
that simply because we can’t see it, then it must not be true. We even
have a tried and tested saying for this “I’ll believe it when I see it”.
Oh how wrong we are. We actually wait for the self-belief to
show up before we take any action. We fail to realise that self-belief is
created by doing the very thing that we think we can’t. Our brain needs reference
points of success or in other words, it needs proof. There are some lucky souls
out there who have been taught to believe in themselves from day dot, but it’s
unlikely that they’re reading this article.
For the rest of us, we need proof. We need to see it before
we believe it.
Sometimes that’s a matter of shifting our perspective so
that we can see the evidence that already exists. We have all been successful
at something at some time in our lives but often we down play it because our
automatic response is to put ourselves down.
At other times we need to create new reference points of
success. We need to go out there and attack our world, fail a lot and break
through to success; then we have created proof that we can and our self-belief grows.
When you learn to believe in yourself, you become
unstoppable. You will try things that seem impossible; you will go after things
in your life that you previously had never dreamed of having or doing. People
will believe in you more as a result of your own self-belief and you will get
better jobs, more money, better relationships and have a better life.
Create new reference points for yourself by taking action irrelevant
of your self-belief and start to notice where you have already had success in
the past. Gather all the proof you can and the self- belief with improve.
Doing this on your own can be tough so if you want to learn
how to believe in yourself again but have struggled a bit on your own then take
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Happy self loving
Katie Nicole
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